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How to find healthy love: Break free from toxic relationships for good

Learn how love is an inside job: Stop looking in all the wrong places.

They say love is all around . . . and no more so than in February.

Everywhere you look, there are shiny displays of red hearts, angelic cupids, and promises of awe-inspiring romance. 

Valentine’s Day comes with big hopes and soaring expectations as excited pairs plan the “perfect” romantic evening.

Yet that ideal sweeping romantic love has always seemed to elude you. 

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Why does Cupid’s arrow seem to miss you every year?

While Valentine’s Day seems to light up the world around you, it may leave you feeling a sense of disappointment and sadness.  

Maybe even a nagging feeling of low self-worth . . . especially if you find yourself alone.

If so, you might be caught in the common trap of seeking love outside of yourself. 

But that’s not how to find healthy love.

Not only that, you run the risk of feeling unloveable.

Fear not! Hypnosis can help you to master self-love, helping you to let go of those unworthy feelings and become the best version of yourself . . . to yourself.

Because when a healthy love radiates from deep within, it attracts love on the same frequency.

What does self-love mean?

Self-love is appreciating yourself and seeing yourself in a positive light. Furthermore, it means understanding your value and treating yourself in a loving way.

It’s often something that needs to be cultivated as we go through life.

For instance, as infants and children, we start off naturally loving ourselves. We haven’t yet learned those societal norms and external influences which often lead us to believe that love comes from others, and that self-love is somehow selfish. 

We’re like sponges at that age and absorb the thoughts and behaviors of our families or caregivers. Our subconscious minds become imprinted with those messages, whether they’re positive or negative. Those messages may not be true, but the deepest recesses of our minds believe them to be. Even the most well-intentioned of messages from our loved ones can leave us feeling negatively about ourselves. 

No matter if they’re true or false, we internalize these messages and they can manifest as behavioral patterns that stay with us our entire lives. They can often undermine our ability to see ourselves in a non-judgemental way.

The instinctive and unspoiled love we have for ourselves can be chipped away as we let others define our value. This can set off a chain of events where we start looking for validation and love in all the wrong places, leading to toxic relationships and dating anxiety. 

These toxic beliefs and relationships led many people to believe that they’re not worthy of receiving love.

“Am I unloveable?”

Absolutely not!

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Your naturally positive self-esteem has been buried under layers and layers of negative self-talk that have probably been influenced by other’s pessimistic thinking. Think about all the gloomy messages that have piled on since childhood. It’s no wonder you feel less than when you’ve been under the misguided assumption that you’re not worthy of love.

The good news is that there’s a silver lining when it comes to these “childish” beliefs. They can be transformed at a core level. Through hypnosis, you can get to the root of and reprogram any deep-seated beliefs that have been ingrained since childhood. 

You DO have an innate self-love and it’s waiting to be unleashed.

Reconnecting with self-love may be easier than you think, thanks to the power of hypnosis. You can break free from limiting patterns and rediscover your worth. Hypnosis is a powerful tool that can help you break free from limiting beliefs and rediscover the happy and confident person you were always meant to be.

And a trained professional can help you rediscover it quickly for effective and profound change by rewiring your belief system. A shift in your perspective can unearth the healthy self-confidence that has always been there. 

The truth is self-love is powerful and unstoppable. Those who embrace it will find happiness, power, and confidence from within. 

We’ve designed The Love Yourself First program to explore the reasons behind our need for external validation, the patterns that lead us to choose the wrong partners, and how to open ourselves up to new ways of receiving love. 

This program serves as a guide to unraveling the layers of conditioning, breaking toxic relationship patterns, and embracing a life founded on authentic self-love. Remember, love is not something to be sought externally; it is a treasure within, waiting to be unearthed and shared with the world.

The Three Pillars of Self-Love:

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Self-love can be divided into three pillars. Let’s look closer to more fully understand why they’re the secret to loving yourself:

1. Loving Yourself: Gratitude, Forgiveness, Understanding, and Receiving

Cultivating self-love involves acknowledging and appreciating the unique qualities that make us who we are . . . even if society (or even our parents!) tells us otherwise. Practicing gratitude shifts our focus from what’s lacking to what’s abundant in our lives. Forgiveness releases the chains of past hurts that bind us, allowing us to move forward unburdened. Understanding ourselves and our needs enables us to set healthy boundaries and make choices aligned with our well-being. Learning to receive love is a crucial aspect, as many struggle with accepting affection and kindness.

2. Self-Care: Eating Right, Exercise, Knowing Your Body

Physical well-being is intertwined with self-love. Nourishing our bodies with proper nutrition is a form of self-respect. Regular exercise not only benefits our physical health by releasing endorphins that contribute to emotional well-being. We need to be attuned to our body’s signals, understand our needs, and treat ourselves with the care we deserve.

3. Love for Others: Compassion, Empathy, Doing Good for Others

Extending love to others creates a positive ripple effect in our lives. Compassion and empathy enhance our connections with those around us, fostering a supportive community. Doing good for others not only contributes to the well-being of those we help but also reinforces our sense of purpose so we can feel a little less alone in the world.

Also, the more love you give, the more you receive. Creating a positive cycle of love and kindness enhances overall well-being.

Why is it so important to look within ourselves?

Because external validation is a myth. Prioritizing self-love and internal validation approval shifts from finding someone to love you to becoming someone who loves yourself unconditionally. This shift in perspective attracts like-minded individuals who appreciate and value your authentic self.

The idea that love must come from outside sources has been ingrained in us from an early age. We’re bombarded with messages that tell us we need someone else to complete us. This external validation may provide instant gratification because, let’s be honest, those heady early days of romance are pretty darn thrilling! 

But dredging up all those years of hurt and negativity by looking internally can be scary.

Hypnosis can help you to quickly and effectively reconnect with your inherent self-love.  Hypnosis helps peel away the layers of societal conditioning, allowing us to tap into the self-love that already resides within our unconscious minds. It’s not about creating something new; it’s about rediscovering what’s always been there.

Sign up for our one on one hypnosis program called Love Yourself First.

Break the Patterns of Toxic Relationships:

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Failing to recognize our own self-worth has consequences, especially in love. 

One of the most significant being is falling victim to toxic relationships. 

Maybe you feel the need to be in a relationship because society tells you so. Maybe you feel you need to be in a relationship because you don’t believe anyone could love you and you’re lucky to have found this ONE person. So you stay because you believe it’s what you deserve.

And once you leave that toxic relationship—after swearing that you’ll never put yourself through that again—you find yourself in another “romance” with the same poisonous hallmarks. You end up attracting the same type of partner repeatedly or finding yourself in other sorts of destructive habits. 

Understanding the importance of self-love in relationship dynamics is a fundamental aspect of breaking toxic patterns. The Love Yourself First program delves into the root causes of these patterns and provides tools to break free.

Freeing yourself from these patterns is the key to establishing healthy relationships. 

Don’t waste any more time with unhealthy relationships that do more harm than good. You deserve an honest and healthy relationship that brings out the best in you. 

And maybe it means not having a relationship at all for a while because it will help you discover who you are. This authentic self-love shifts the focus from desperately seeking external validation to attracting the right kind of love. When we love ourselves, we become magnets for those who appreciate and complement our true selves.

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Overcoming Dating Anxiety:

Maybe it’s not about toxic relationships at all. Maybe it’s about having the confidence to put yourself out there in the first place.

Dating anxiety is a common hurdle that many face on the path to finding love. The fear of rejection, past traumas, or societal pressures can contribute to anxiety around dating. The antidote to that is embracing self-love. When you’re secure in your self-worth, dating becomes a journey of exploration rather than a source of anxiety.

Love always starts from within, and the more we embrace and celebrate our own love, the more effortlessly we attract the love we truly deserve.

The Love Yourself First program helps turn dating anxiety into dating confidence. Through hypnosis, you can reprogram your subconscious mind to release fears and insecurities that hinder dating experiences. Again, it’s about shifting the focus from seeking external validation to recognizing one’s inherent value.

You can rediscover the love that has always existed within you and nurture it into a force that transforms every facet of your life. Once you do that, it opens the door to attracting the love you deserve.

Sign up for our one on one hypnosis program called Love Yourself First.

How we do it:

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The Flow Center’s program has been helping people for decades who want to banish their negative thoughts and habits and transform their lives:

Journey deep into your subconscious: You’ll be guided into a deeply relaxed state that lets all other thoughts fall away so your mind can focus. This allows your subconscious to be more receptive to suggestion. The hypnotist will begin to unlock issues that have prevented you from experiencing self-acceptance and bring them to the surface.  

Create new lovable habits for yourself: The hypnotist will then reprogram your old internal belief system and rewire it to accept self-love. This new “coding” will allow you to transform the way you see, respond, and attach meaning to your issues. Instead of the negative emotions and patterns you once had, you’ll be able to create new and lovable habits surrounding the way you see yourself.

Develop new positive and loving beliefs:  The voices in your head telling you that you’re not enough will be silenced. No more beating yourself up. Instead, you’ll have effortless kindness and respect for the amazing person you already are. You’ll be able to step confidently into new habits that celebrate all your strengths and see your old habits with more compassion as they depart from your life. 

Imagine a future where it is all possible: You’ll be able to take more chances now that nothing is holding you back. Boldly embrace a new mindset where the opportunities open to you are endless. Nothing is beyond you. In fact, success is at the forefront of your mind.

Additionally, imagine a future where you break the cycle of negative thinking so your children don’t have to go through what you did.

See the benefits of self-love: The result is a gentle and effective ability to return to your natural love for yourself. It’s always been there, but it eroded over time when those negative beliefs crept in. Now that you’ve released those feelings, you have more space to allow your self-esteem to blossom.

Loving ourselves with all we have:

Loving ourselves can be hard work . . . but it doesn’t have to be.

When administered by a trained hypnotist, hypnosis can help you shake off self-loathing and embrace self-love. It can be done quickly and in just a few sessions.

How to find healthy love will no longer be a mystery. Once you become love, you attract love. Breaking free from toxic relationships will be a thing of the past.

The Love Yourself First program aims to painlessly guide individuals toward embracing self-love with hypnosis, one of the subconscious’s most powerful tools. 

Whether you’re in Dallas or beyond, we’re here to help you.

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