Hypnotist explains how and why intention and proper motivation play a big role in goal accomplishment.
Let’s say your intention is to create new habits so that you can (motivation) be thin with a flat belly (so you will love yourself more).
Just like most things I write about, I do, because I experienced them.
In January of 2021, and tired of my bloating belly no matter what I ate or how much I went to the gym, I started working with Michelle Valeri, who specializing in digestive issues and holistic healing. She started me off with some easy things I could do, with the time required and level of difficulty increasing each month. Also, the type of natural healing (Chinese Medicine) would take a year or more, but with results along with way.
I am not going to explain everything I am doing because that is not the point. The point is my MOTIVATION. Which was: TO HAVE A FLAT BELLY (so I could love myself more).
My motivation was working…AT FIRST, then it wore off at the first sign some of the symptoms were returning (it is not an easy protocol and so on vacation I was only able to do it 80% of the time). I had to beat myself up to punish myself. But that turned into self defeat and getting off the protocol completely, complaining it was too hard and it wasn’t working (after adhering to most of it for 6-7 months).
THIS IS ABOUT SELF LOVE
At my appointment in August after tossing around my pissy-fit, she said, “This is not about getting thin, this is about self love.” I wanted to slap her and hug her at the same time. “Well, sh*t, I thought. I have had the right intention but the wrong motivation.”
In my sessions, I talk to clients about the proper intention and motivation and I wasn’t doing that myself. If my intention was to show self love, I wasn’t really sure I could do that. I do treat myself to lots of hiking, eating right 90% of the time, sleep, soothing music, meditation and gardening. My poor belly experiences bloating and not bloating at the drop of a hat. It is like one of those puffer fishes that expands for protection. It is damned hard to really love yourself when you are not happy with 100% of yourself. I didn’t express this in my words or thoughts, but I believe my belly knew it was not loved.
THAT WAS THE FIRST LAYER
Now I know that I must love myself more, enough to stay with the program for 4 more months, possibly 12 more. And perhaps a lifetime. I started getting frustrated. Then it hit me. I am too busy. I do too much and I was beginning to resent the tools that were actually helping me. So, after cancelling my day because I was feeling rather off, I put myself in TIME OUT. 30 days of no other commitments besides my clients and me and my healing.
NOW TO PEEL OFF THE NEXT LAYER.
About 2 months ago, I wrote on my chalkboard next to my meditation cushion, “I choose JOY, FUN AND FULFILLMENT”. I look at that daily and affirm, YES, I choose that. But I was not feeling that. Duty calls. Duty to my business, networking, my chickens, my boyfriend, family, friends, hiking, hypnotic hiking, blogging, banking, clipping my toenails, mowing my grass and checking the oil in my car. STOP!!! I declared to poor Bryan, “I JUST CAN’T DO EVERYTHING ANY MORE.” I NEED A BREAK. But not a vacation kind of a break, but a time out from MOST responsibilities. So starting August 30th, I am focused only on my healing protocol, exercise, meditation, keeping up my house and gardens, and my beautiful Flow Center with my wonderful clients. Everything else is out….no night time TV, no going out to eat, no family-friend visits and even poor Bryan. (He will be okay it is football seasons now).
I am focusing only on me and the things that bring a sense of fulfillment, perhaps joy comes from that and from that fun. But my intention is not to have fun, but rather to focus on having all the time I need to take care of me and my sweet belly.
I’m Valerie Grimes, hypnotist at The Flow Center and if you relate to this, please send me an email from my contact page, I would love to hear your story.
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Unresolved emotions manifest on the skin, if continued long term and unresolved, those emotions will manifest into illness, then disease. This is a scientific fact that most mainstream “professionals” are not aware of yet. Fear and grief are the two most detrimental emotions we can experience, especially for prolonged periods. Being too anxious or fearful will lower the body’s immune system at warp speed! Emotions, symptoms, and illnesses always manifest on the skin-Very often, these markings will show up on the face up to 3 years before they will be revealed in blood work, MRI, or CT scans. The state of digestion shows up on the face. It gives us very specific details of what’s happening internally.