Did you know there are options to ‘go with the flow’ ?
What does it feel like when someone tells you to “just go with the flow?”
If you could, wouldn’t you be doing that already? I once thought it was such amazing statement, spoken with such wisdom about life and how life works. This statement implies that we do get stuck and create a resistance to what is and or what could be. When we are stuck, those wise ones blurt out, “Just Go With The Flow”.
I remember in the 90s a friend told me I was “clutching to the bank, using all my strength and focus to not let go“…that was a powerful visual at the time. But it wasn’t immediately helpful. However, it implied I was doing something wrong and admittedly in those years I was, navigating business ownership and motherhood at the same time. Looking back, I was holding on because I was really on the wrong river. I was trying to BE ALL and DO ALL. Maybe I was holding on for good reason.
What if…IT WAS THE WRONG RIVER? What if the river you are on is not supporting you or taking you in the right direction. Ahhhhhhh, bet you never thought of that. Maybe you are on the wrong river and you are resisting continuing down that direction, so you are holding on, waiting for something to come along to help you.
Resistance To The Letting Go
Hypnotherapy training teaches that the dominate response for the subconscious is to avoid the unknown, to seek the known (even if it is not the best for us). This is why we hold on.
We can let go when we know more about where we are going and where we are going comes from the magic of deciding where it is that you WANT to go. Because if you don’t know where you want to go, then you will stay on that river, stuck. There are many reasons for being stuck, the main one is fear. Fear of the unknown. We want something but we do not know how to attain it. Hypnosis sessions work to create a more known and therefore a more inviting future path for you to follow with confidence.
How Did You Get On The Wrong River?
I think you are born into it, a cause and effect thing. The blank slate we start with becomes littered with ideas, beliefs, judgements, opinions and habits that formed and sprouted and got strengthened over time. Envision a stream and how it flows down a mountain, creating a path. Once it starts in that downward direction, it can’t be stopped.
However, something can interrupt it momentarily. Imagine a big rock falls in the path, there is a suspension of momentum, but the water soon finds a way around, creating a new path. Think of this as switching to a new stream that leads to a new river. Conversely, if you wait it out, rains will come and nature will take care of it, but forcing you,
How do you switch rivers?
Life events are like that rock and while we are in the moment, complaining about our situation (holding on to the bank of the rivers so to speak) it is in that moment we can recognize a new path, a new direction and using that opportunity to “let go” and flow around the obstacle down a new path, heading for bigger waters, and then the expansive, unlimited ocean. Nature is a great teacher, some think it is a drug. I think Nature is The Drug of Choice. Sending time in nature and contemplating your own nature will gently guide you to the letting go and finding your new path in life. It is gradually and best if not forced. Let me know if you need help. I’m Valerie, Your River Guide and The Hypnotic Hiker.
Hypnosis is a form of cooperative therapy that targets specific problems and attitudes. Hypnosis is based on the idea that each client is willing to work toward a goal with a qualified specialist, and break out of bad patterns. If certain behaviors are threatening personal relationships, physical and emotional health, or success at work, it could be helpful to examine the root of these problems in a controlled environment with a certified hypnotist. Hypnosis provides clarity to clients who may not understand their inability to change or improve chronic situations in their lives.
Valerie Grimes is a clinical hypnotist (CHt). Previously the staff hypnotist at Kaner Medical Group in Bedford, Texas, she is a recognized master at helping people overcome the negative belief systems, false opinions and self-defeating habits that reside in their subconscious minds. In 2002, she graduated from the Dallas Hypnosis Training Institute in Irving with 300 classroom and clinical hours. She is the owner of The Flow Center in Dallas. She became a BARS practitioner in January 2022. Schedule a consultation.